Cross the river of change
The hardest part about change is not making the same choices we made the day before. The reason it’s so difficult that the moment we no longer are thinking the same thoughts that lead to the same choice –which causes us to automatically act in habitual ways so that we can experience the same events in order to reaffirm the same emotions of our identity -we immediately feel uncomfortable. This new state of being is unfamiliar its unknown. It does not feel normal. We don’t feel like ourselves anymore because we are not ourselves. And because everything feels uncertain, we no longer can predict the feeling of the familiar of the familiar self and how its mirrored back to us in our lives.
As uncomfortable as that may be at first that’s the moment, we know we stepped into the river of change. We entered the unknown. The instant that we longer are being our old selves we have to cross a gap between old self and the new self which shown below. In other words, we don’t all just waltz into new personality in a matter of moments. Its takes time
Usually when people step into the river of change that void between the old self and the new self is so uncomfortable that they immediately slip back into being their old selves again. They unconsciously think, this does not feel right, I am uncomfortable or I don’t feel good. The moment they accept that thought or autosuggestion they will unconsciously make the same old choices again that will lead to the progression of the same habitual behaviour to create the same experiences that automatically endorse the same emotions and feelings. And then they say to themselves. This feels right. But what they really mean is that it feels familiar. Once we understand that crossing the river of change and feeling that discomfort is actually the biological neurological chemical and even genetic death of the old self, we have power over change and we can set our sight on the other side of the river. If we embrace the fact that change is the denaturing f the hardwired circuitry from years of unconsciously thinking the same way we can cope. If we understand that the discomfort, we feel is the dismantling of old attitudes beliefs and perceptions that have been repeatedly etched into our cerebral architecture we can endure. If we can reason that the cravings, we battle in the midst of change are real withdrawals from chemical emotional addictions of the body we can ride it out. If we can comprehend the real biological variations are occurring from subconscious habits and behaviors in which our bodies are changing on a cellular level we can forge on. And if we can remember that we are modifying our very genes from this life and from untold previous generations we can stay focused and inspired to an end. Some people call this experience the dark night of the soul. It’s the phoenix igniting itself and burning to ashes. The old self has to die for a new one to be reborn. Of course, that feels uncomfortable! But that’s okay because that unknown is the perfect place to create from –it’s the place where possibilities exist. What could be better than that? Most of us have been conditioned to run from the unknown so now we have to learn to become comfortable in the void or the unknow instead of fearing it. If you told me that you did not like being in that void because it’s so disorienting and that you cannot see what lies ahead because you cannot predict your future. I’d say that actually great because the best way to predict the future to create it — not from the known but from the unknown. As the new self is born, we must be biologically different too. New neuronal connection must be sprouted and sealed by the conscious choice to think and act in new ways every day. Those connections must be reinforced by our repeatedly creating the same experiences until they become a habit. New chemical states must be familiar to us from the emotions of enough new experiences’ new genes must be signalled to make new proteins to alter our state of being in new ways. And if as we have seen the expression of protein is the expression of life and the expression of life is equal to the health of the body then a new level of structural and functional health and life will follow. A renewed mind and a renewed body must emerge
