Never criticize yourself

Have you ever noticed how some people don’t think twice before criticizing someone else? Or how their tolerance level for ideas that are different from their own is practically non-existent, making them argumentative and easily angered? Well, the truth is, there will always be differences between us, and since I, myself, do not wish to criticize others, I must preface this by saying that I’m sure those folks are simply unaware of the repercussions of their behaviour, or I am certain they would not continue.

Therefore, my goal is merely to point out that if, in fact, all is interconnected, meaning everything affects everything else, then perhaps we need to investigate why it’s so important to consciously choose where we put our attention and how we spend our time. Are we finding fault and tearing down or lifting up and helping to heal?

Most of us consciously aspire to take the correct path to become the best versions of ourselves. The best tool we have to measure our efforts with is self-analysis. Of course, it’s admirable to try your hardest to do things the best you can and be the best person you can be. That’s why we often look at the negative in order to improve the next time around.

However, though self-analysis is a great way to observe your behaviour and overcome your weaknesses and bad habits, it is easy to start underestimating yourself; it’s very easy to get too self-critical.

In the long term, too much self-criticism can negatively impact your success and mental health. Being too self-critical hurts your self-esteem and confidence. In fact, it’s directly related to low self-esteem and perfectionism.

Are you too self-critical?

It becomes a problem if we go on “autopilot” when we start to criticize ourselves. We need to wake up and notice the damage we are unwittingly causing. To see if you’re too self-critical, take a look at this list. If you think it matches up with what you do on a day-to-day basis, it’s time to put a stop to it and take better care of your mental health.


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Intense and frequent self-criticism is a form of self-sabotage. That is, by criticizing ourselves we do just the opposite of what’s healthy for us. Then why do we do it? Because it’s part of our bigger psychological picture, where we’re used to carrying heavy loads of rejection, fear, and oppression.

This is how negativity becomes a trap that’s hard to get out of. We chain ourselves to it because it’s familiar; we take ownership of it. We look for negativity on autopilot, because we feel naked without it.

If you want to stop being so self-critical and sabotaging yourself, you’ll need to get to know yourself better. It also requires changing your internal dialogue.



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