Why should I tolerate people?

In life, unnecessary tolerations can bleed you of energy and make it impossible for you to function effectively. You can’t live a happy, successful, fulfilling life when you’re spending all your energy tolerating things that shouldn’t be tolerated. Sometimes you need to put your foot down.

There are several things that we have been tolerating for far too long. If you feel like you have been too, here are some things to stop tolerating in your life, and you will be surprised, its not people that you have to tolerate after all:

  1. A negative attitude — Choose to be unhappy and you will find a million reasons to complain and frown. Choose to be happy and you will find a million reasons to smile.
  • That nagging thought that you could have been kinder — The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention. How you make others feel about themselves, says a whole lot about you. So, treat people right. Kindness IS a gift you can afford to give. Be the sweetness in someone’s bitterness and the light in someone’s darkness. Always be kinder than you feel.
  • Self-deprecating thoughts — If you feel like others aren’t treating you with love and respect, check your price tag. Perhaps you subconsciously marked yourself down. Because it’s YOU who tells others what you’re worth by showing them what you are willing to accept for your time and attention. So, get off the clearance rack. If you don’t value and respect yourself, wholeheartedly, no one else will either.
  • Being too busy and scattered-brained to appreciate life’s sweetness — It’s so hard to forget pain, but sometimes it’s even harder to remember the sweetness of life. We have no scar to show for happiness. And times of blissful peace are rarely impactful, unless we are mindfully present. Surround yourself with beautiful things, by noticing them. Life has a lot of grey and sadness — you really have to look for that rainbow and frame it. There is beauty in everything; sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it.
  • Expectations of perfection — Life will never be perfect, no matter how hard you try. Even if you pour your heart and soul into it, you will never achieve a state of absolute perfection. There will always be moments of uncertainty; there will always be days where nothing goes right. But as time rolls on you will learn that even the most imperfect situations can be made better with a little love and laughter.
  • An obsession with control — When you’re younger, you exhaust yourself trying to take charge of everything in your life, other people, and all situations. Then one day it dawns on you that you will never gain control until you lose the need to have it — until you can simply let it be OK, to not be perfectly OK. When you’re wearing yourself ragged trying to juggle the outcome of everything happening around you, it’s time to stop, take a breath, and remind yourself that the only things you can truly control, are what choices you will make, and how much control you will give to the fear that you’re feeling.
  • Not appreciating what you have while you have it — Sometimes we end up cheating on others and ourselves simply because we pay more attention to what we’re missing, rather than what we have. When you get something small, you want more. When you get more, you desire even more. But when you lose everything, you realize the small things were really the big things. So don’t go looking for something better every second. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, think about what you have that so many others are missing.
  • A worry list that’s longer than your gratitude list — What worries you, masters you. Stress thrives when your worry list is longer than your gratitude list. Happiness thrives when your gratitude list is longer than your worry list. So, find something to be thankful for. And remember, pretending to be happy when you’re struggling is just a small example of how strong you are as a person.

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